Sex and women wanting it was the hot topic of a phone conversation I had last night. A friend of mine is on a couple of internet dating sites, and has contacted a woman in his area. She told him that she is looking for a 'knight in shining armor'. He said that his armor is tin and rusty, which is funny, but I think he should just 'be' that man she wants him to be. The reasoning behind my stance is, the woman who has such a romanticized view of the man she wants is bound to be disappointed anyway, so why not just go for the illusion and have some great sex while it lasts.

The fictions that surround our lives such as the romantic wedding Disney ideal of love are impossible to sustain for any lengthy amount of time, I contend that a woman who professes to want that is looking for something that is socially acceptable yet highly unlikely because she wants have have some hot sex and this is the way women are conditioned to get it. It's "OK" to have sex with someone as long as you are 'in love' with them, according to society. So, brainwash oneself into this romantic love affair, realize later that it isn't all that romantic because hey, we live on earth not in a fairy-tale, break up with the person and start over. It's the only way society allows women to have sex with more then one person without being labeled a slut.

Then, my friend says that I am putting down women. Obviously he missed my point. I am not putting down women, it is normal and natural to want to have sex with multiple partners in one's lifetime. I would strongly prefer that it not be necessary to engage in the silly drama of falling in love every time one wants to go for it with someone else, however it is easier to go along with societal expectations (no matter how stupid) then to just be honest and go against the grain. I can't blame him for what he said, he is following the party line that a woman who wants sex is bad.

Sigh. The bright side of this is that as long as wanting sex is bad, it will have an illicit thrill that might die if we all just accepted it as a natural desire, and illicit thrills are cool.